In addition, babies are born to two parents, each with equal rights to the child. Neither parent is more important than the other. Think about how it works in a marriage or other engaged relationship. Mom and Dad share time with the child and (to some extent) share responsibilities towards the child. You pick up at daycare, you walk away. One feeds breakfast, the other packs lunch. One washes the dishes while the other helps with bath time. Of course, it works differently in each family, but for the most part, responsibilities are shared without much hassle. When things don`t work out between parents, things start to fall apart. Usually, it quickly gets out of order in a shocking way. Whether you and your child`s father have been married and are about to divorce or you are never married and are simply looking for a way to share responsibility for your child (without having too much contact with each other, of course), you will need to make some sort of agreement on how custody and visits will be handled. If you do NOT have a custody order, problems often begin to prepare.

In most states, the mother automatically has custody if the parents have never been married and there is no custody agreement. Also a holiday that is coordinated with his custody agreement with his daughter so that the boys can be with their sister during the holidays! Help, please! It`s not fair to me and my kids are everything to me! I have sole physical custody of my son in Virginia, but now I`m in Indiana, holding the custody papers and if she can get it from me through a lawyer, then she has to prove to me that I am infit. When you negotiate, you ultimately make a decision — in a signed letter — that describes how custody is managed. When you plead, the judge decides and issues an enforceable order that you must follow. When a child is born to married parents, it is assumed that both parents share physical and legal custody equally. This presumption exists until the couple requests separation or divorce without dissolution of the body. If your case is just a custody case (which means you`re not getting divorced), it`s a little easier. As in cases with an underlying divorce application, you have the option of mediation or trial, either with a lawyer or on your own. (Cooperation, on the other hand, is a process specific to divorce.) Mediation and negotiation actually mean that you would go back and forth until you and your child`s father have an agreement that you are willing to sign. Whether you`re sharing a mediator, commissioning your own lawyers, or negotiating yourself, the end goal (the signed agreement) is the goal…